Guilt trip?

About a week ago, I filled a formal complaint against an associate for a racial slur against me. I reported it to Ethics. A few days later, one of managers calls me a name after asking for his help then immediately says " I'm just kidding, don't report me to ethics". 

In the situation you described, there could be several issues related to reasoning and interpersonal communication at play:

1. **Minimization**: When the manager makes an inappropriate joke followed by saying "I'm just kidding, don't report me to ethics," they may be trying to minimize the impact of their words. This is problematic because it disregards the initial harm or discomfort caused by the comment and suggests that the act of reporting such behavior is frivolous.

2. **Guilt Tripping**: The manager’s comment can be viewed as an attempt at guilt-tripping. By immediately deflecting to “don't report me to ethics,” it implies that the person reporting previously or in the future could be seen in a negative light or as someone who overreacts. This can create an uncomfortable power dynamic, where the person who experienced harm feels pressured not to report for fear of being seen as responsible for potential consequences the manager might face.

3. **Poor Humor Justification**: Justifying offensive or inappropriate behavior with "I'm just kidding" is often used to deflect responsibility. It dismisses any offense taken by positioning the comment as humor that should be accepted, rather than addressing the inappropriateness of the comment itself.

4. **Deflection from Accountability**: The manager's comment could be seen as an attempt to deflect from accountability and create a sense of camaraderie at the expense of recognizing the seriousness of inappropriate workplace behavior.

In a professional context, it is crucial to maintain a respectful and supportive environment. Comments like those made by the manager risk undermining that environment, especially when they are dismissive of legitimate concerns about workplace behavior. The person impacted by such comments is entitled to feel uncomfortable and seek appropriate channels to address them, free from an imposition of guilt or dismissal.

Did it ever occur to you that you may be overly sensitive? This seems to be more a psychological or social issue than a logical one.  Without more information, I select the former.